How interesting to see this today. I’ve been in a challenging marriage for over 30 years. Now, it is quietly ending. Some would say ‘failing’. I don’t think I do. I think I failed myself in many ways, while trying to make the marriage ‘not fail’. Getting married at 20, becoming parents a year and a half later, his undiagnosed mental illn…
How interesting to see this today. I’ve been in a challenging marriage for over 30 years. Now, it is quietly ending. Some would say ‘failing’. I don’t think I do. I think I failed myself in many ways, while trying to make the marriage ‘not fail’. Getting married at 20, becoming parents a year and a half later, his undiagnosed mental illness and disability, my undiagnosed neurodivergence (we got diagnosed in our late 40’s), some toxic relationship programming to deconstruct…it was never easy. But we grew up together.
We will never not love each other in some way–but it isn’t good for either of us now. And we both see it.
I think the only ‘fail’ is failing to learn and grow.
yes - change is a life long experience - the word fail is what? it did not work out the way we expected. Your statement that the only "fail" is to not grow and learn is genius
How interesting to see this today. I’ve been in a challenging marriage for over 30 years. Now, it is quietly ending. Some would say ‘failing’. I don’t think I do. I think I failed myself in many ways, while trying to make the marriage ‘not fail’. Getting married at 20, becoming parents a year and a half later, his undiagnosed mental illness and disability, my undiagnosed neurodivergence (we got diagnosed in our late 40’s), some toxic relationship programming to deconstruct…it was never easy. But we grew up together.
We will never not love each other in some way–but it isn’t good for either of us now. And we both see it.
I think the only ‘fail’ is failing to learn and grow.
yes - change is a life long experience - the word fail is what? it did not work out the way we expected. Your statement that the only "fail" is to not grow and learn is genius
Beautiful I agree and relate
‘Failing not to learn’